What exactly should I be doing with this recent break up?

First off I don't think you accidently blow him kisses or tell him you love him. I think that you are playing games. I have been there to. You are holding onto him because you obviously still care for him, but at the same time you want to be with other people. You can continue to play games with him and keep luring him in and letting him go, but thats mean and he needs to move on its only fair. You cannot have the best of both worlds even though it would be nice. You need to come to grips that you broke up with him for a reason and you need to get over him. Sure you can be friends with him, but you need to make that clear thats what you want and nothing more. If you still have feelings for him and want to be with him....stop playing games and be with him! Tell him straight up that you don't want him and stop telling him you love him if you truly don't. Its sucks but game playing isn't cool. If you were close to his family and still have a relationship with them I dont see anything wrong with giving them gifts, but you should cut that tie soon to. Good luck.